I was speaking to a dear friend of mine today about everything and nothing. It’s the kind of friendship that has stood the test of time and distance, the kind that can withstand lengthy periods of daily interaction and just as lengthy periods with none. It’s rare in this world and it’s to be cherished.
This particular friendship was forged in the trenches of rearing young children, away from any sort of formal support network (family), and so we formed our own. A bond such as this provides the much needed empathetic ear, strong yet soft shoulder and honest word to help you through the tough times and to celebrate the good.
We said our goodbyes as she walked into the zone of her house that has never been good for reception. Images of her home and all the happy moments shared there flicked through my mind’s eye like an old-fashioned projector show. We live over 1000km apart now, but it feels as though she’s still down the road. I continued my commute home from work with memories of that time in my life, when the kids were little, dancing through my head bringing nostalgic joy to my heart and a smile to my lips.
This dear friend was a pivotal part of my village in those days. She still is.
And it does have absolutely everything to do with this blog, the group and even the cookbook I’ve just written; The Unwrapped Lunchbox.
‘It takes a village to raise a child’ ~ African Proverb
My friend was another adult going through the same challenges, small achievements and triumphant milestones that come with the raising of small versions of yourself. Our ideals, values and morals were (still are) very similar. Our children have sporadically discovered the world together. We compare stories, we swap notes and learn from each other’s mistakes.
And that, in my humble opinion, is the essence of the village.
Of course the village can be brimming with practical knowledge such as how to use a crock pot, what a crock pot actually is (slow cooker - you’re welcome), how to pack a lunch (check out The Unwrapped Lunchbox) and how to navigate the local government’s family assistance portal (sorry still trying to figure it out).
But the essence? Well it’s intangible! It’s that stuff that you know is necessary, but can’t quite put your finger on its physical substance. The love, the support.
And that, beautiful people, is what I hope to provide here.
A safe place for you to be you, to know that you have love and know that you have support. If this resonates with you, you’re in exactly the right place. If not, that’s ok too … but I’d love you to stick around long enough to make sure!
Here’s to all the friends you have had in the past, have now and the ones that will come into your life in the future.
This week the download is super, super simple. A blank list on which I ask you write the names of those people you would call your village. Drop me an email with ‘YES PLEASE’ and I’ll send you one direct to your inbox.
I challenge you to fill it out and then invite every person on the list to join The Village. It’s totally free. My goal is to create a safe space for like minded parents to share ideas, challenges and triumphs. To help me understand the type of things you’d like to know more about.
Just two simple steps to join (remember it’s free);
But even if you don’t ask your village to join The Village … at least I’ve helped you to write down a list of people that are YOUR people.